This past weekend Josh and I took a getaway to the Outer Banks to spend some time just hanging out together. A few people jokingly asked us why we needed a vacation, didn’t we just get back from a honeymoon? Which is true, usually weekends away are for relaxing after a long stretch of hard work. July was pretty crazy for us though! Josh was preaching every Sunday, I was playing in the band which meant weekly practices, we also lead small group, lead Bible studies, and co-led a financial class which meantthat for almost the entire month we had something going on each night of the week. Don’t get me wrong, they were all things we loved, but it was busy! It was also the first month of marriage for us which is simulataneously wonderful and difficult.
At “The Lost Colony”
Josh and I both have strong nerd-like tendencies so before we got married we had read, listened to, and watched all kinds of things on how to do marriage right. One of the common themes was having your spouse be your best friend. Sounds pretty simple, right? And here is where I reveal my naivete. Josh and I had been together for 2 years before we got married and I figured that since we loved spending time together, had lots in common, and had lively conversations on a regular basis that there would be no difference when we got married. To some extent that has been true but I’ve gotten a crash course on how easy it is to slip into being together without “being together”. On a rare night last month when we didn’t have anything to do, we might watch TV while eating supper, then play some video games or watch a movie, then read side by side in bed and go to sleep. Before I’d realize it, i 3 or 4 days would go by and I couldn’t remember the last conversation we’d had. Truthfully, it scared me a little because I kept thinking – “we’ve only been married a month, what’s going to happen after a year or twelve?”
That’s why we planned a getaway after only a month or so since our honeymoon. We were both too busy. I feel silly even trying to have “insights” after such a short time being married but being intentional about our friendship is not as simple as I thought. Sometimes even super extroverts like Josh and I have to say no to things so that we have emotional and mental energy just for each other. Lord have mercy, what will happen when we have kids?? 🙂
Adventures with the Morgans 